男 ｖｓ女 (Men vs Women)

"He says, she says" a basic cliche in life which we heard every now and then.
As you can see, talking is considered the strongest form of negotiation we have and yet it could lead to a terrible misunderstanding. Before I go any further, don't get me wrong, I ain't no chauvinist and just interpreting what I had read/know.

Why can communication be so difficult and stresses you out when both parties speaks a common language. Here's the problem, they don't =..=
Perhaps the word is the same, yet they are perceived as different message by each individual.
One might come across a person as shy or uninterested because he is not talking much, while other felt his partner is a dick monopolising the conversation. In reality, they do not understand each other's liguistic style or how to make adjustments for it. Don't worry, this comes with practise and experience.

Differences between men and women
Here's the reality, women tend to focus more on rapport (relationship of mutual trust) while men are concerned with status. A bunch of BS you might say, but read on lol

Oh of course i am referring to them in general, not all are like what is said, but most of them is. So please don't be offended or say this is not true. If it is not, then congratulations, you are in the special groups. I am sure you are. ^^

The girls socialise in small groups, talk more and focus on equility. While men do it in a large groups with unequal standing. They tend to display position and knowledge. This can be explain by the guy's own version of olympics on "how far you can shoot?" and "how long is yours?" during the youth period which clearly determine ranks. Contest all the time =..=
Don't even bother to deny it. Every guys I met admitted to it. And woman, don't "yerrr" at us about how disgusting it is. I am sure you girls have your own fair share of it in different ways.

It is part of growing up~~ We humans are primitive because most of our actions are driven by instinct being justified by rationality.

To be more percise, here are a few topic that we often encountered

Questions
How one ask questions depends on the situation. You might be perceived ignorant if you are the only one asking questions.
Men view this as losing face. Therefore resulted in (for example) men are less likely to ask for advice in the class. They would prefer one on one situation where nobody is watching.

Women on the hand view this as a sign of interest and men would tend to form a negative view regarding this matter.

Apologies
Men mostly take "I'm sorry" literally and they less likely to apologise and will ignore/side-step the issue unless it is needed direly. Therefore don't expect to often see a man to apologise. They have the balls to sky dive but they put them in the fridge when they are expected to apologise.

Women will most likely to use the phrase to express sympathy. This can be define by how often you heard a woman say "I'm sorry for what I did."? You might always hear this "I'm sorry this happen to you."

Indirectness
Women tend to be indirect when giving orders while men are direct about admitting their faults. For example, in a situation where a couple are planning to give a present to their old friend. Here's the expected conversation

Wife - "Let's get a plush toy or a crystal ornament to A".
Husband - "Uh, okay" or "What is A going to use the items for? It doesn't serve them in any way." [continue reading the news]
Wife - You know what? Don't bother.

Woman in this situation is trying to get their partner to involve in the decision in getting the present. The man will think "Why you are asking me when you already figured out what to buy?" and they will also analyze the worth of the present in term of usefulness than a form of spiritual term which is perceived by the woman. If they know the wife is trying to get him involve in deciding, they would say "Why couldn't you said so in the first place? It definitely will caused both of us less problem"

I am sure all of you have come across this situation before. In short, understand that both gender perceive words differently before you start judging them.

Feedback
Women tend to soften the impact of negative feedback by complimenting the good behaviour first. The guys will see the first points raised as the most important and will view the comment next as less important regardless of it is good or bad.

Woman - Hey this drawing is good. Such refine work. But it is quite poorly coloured.
Compliments > Condemnation later

Tips for a better relationship is to understand how a man/woman thinks before start judging them.